My Wish for Mothers Day – Free Yourself from Mothers Guilt!
Hi! How are you? How are your kids?
It’s mothers day here in Australia! This is going to be a quickie today but I want to take this moment to send all mothers around the globe love, compassion and appreciation for all that you do.
I know all the love you give out selflessly. I know how you put others needs above your own. I know the emotional rollercoaster you are on. I know how exhausted you get, how much you give and how often you receive no acknowledgment.
My wish for you, all mothers everywhere, is that you feel acknowledged, you feel seen and appreciated, you feel the love coming back to you, and you gift yourself, at least, today, of feeling guilt-free!
You know what I’m talking about:
We all have it. Its a unifying theme of motherhood. We all feel it, we all react to it, and sometimes, some of us, not you but maybe a friend of yours, perpetuate it!
It’s an emotion that eats away at us, takes energy away from us, can keep us awake at night and although in mild cases it can be a good thing as it keeps us on our toes to continue evolving.. do something different, make a mental note not to react like that again… in any more than a mild dose to make us sit up and take notice of the why behind the feeling – always a good thing for our evolution and self awareness – it’s a useless emotion that if allowed to continue unchecked, just chips away at us and affects our mental health and potentially our childrens’, if we’re parenting from a place of guilt…
We mums are busier than ever right now….who else hears about these people who have so much time on their hands to start a new hobby, or organise their houses, or complete projects they’ve wanted to get to for ages, and can’t help but feel a pang of envy….who are these people? They’re not mums with kids at home, that’s who!!
We’re busier than ever, working, and schooling from home, and looking after all the related things that may be falling apart because of the effects of this pandemic, and having no time for ourselves to replenish….and then we add to our load the mothers guilt…my kids aren’t doing enough school work, I’m not doing enough work, I’m not spending enough time with my kids, I’m not spending enough time at my work…I mean we cant win…
So today, I am sending out a mothers day wish to all mothers everywhere that you manage to let go of this guilt. Try it just for one day if you feel too guilty about trying it more longterm!!….
just for today – no guilt.
Can you treat yourself and talk to yourself just as you would your best friend is she was telling you about all the guilt she was feeling. Would you listen and then say, wow, yeah, you’re doing an awful job. Terrible. Im surprised you actually get any sleep at night. Your poor kids, your poor husband / partner, You really need to pull your socks up and do better. NO!!! You’d listen and then with compassion and understanding and a will for your friend to stop beating herself up, you’d present to her the counterarguments and you’d reassure her that she’s doing her best and remind her to be kind to herself.
So, I wish that for you today, Mumma, please be kind to yourself. Be compassionate towards yourself. You love your kids and you’re doing your best.
And we all mess up, we all do things we wish we hadn’t, we’ve all shouted at our kids and got impatient and said things we didn’t mean. We all have days when we’re sad and exhausted and overwhelmed and fed up. And its ok. Its part of the ride.
But we don’t have to carry it, all day, every day, for the rest of our lives…we can learn from it and move on. In every moment we have a choice of how we show up.
I just did something, or said something I wish I hadn’t, but now I have a new opportunity. Am I going to continue with that or am I going to take a breath, come back to this moment, leave that moment in the past to learn from and move forward. We always have a choice. In every moment. Every moment is an opportunity for a new choice.
So I hope you choose today some self compassion: to treat yourself as you would your bestie. We’re all doing the best we can with what we have right now. And if you love your kids and you parent from a place of love, for them, and yourself, they’re doing well!
And if today is a tough day for you, please know that you’re not alone. We all have them and you don’t need to suffer alone. This is why we have our weekly meetings, to support one-another and maintain our mental health for the sake of ourselves and our children. So, we will be meeting tonight, as usual, 8pm Sydney time, pm me for the link
Have a wonderful day. Happy Mothers day. Thank you for all your do. And have a great week